From: David Masover <ninja@...>
Date: 2010-01-30T18:39:50+09:00
Subject: Re: anyone can help?

On Thursday 28 January 2010 08:48:40 pm Rihana Liu wrote:
> communication is in vain!so i need some tools to help me

I would suggest that the tools you need are psychological, not technical. 
Again: It will be hard, but you really have no choice if you want to build a 
relationship with anything resembling trust.

Let me say this again, because it's important: There is really no choice here. 
If communication doesn't work, you're stuck. Technology is not a substitute.

Even if he never finds out, the parent will know, and if they're a good parent 
at all, it will eat at their conscience. That's if the parent never finds 
anything significant -- you would be violating the kid's privacy for nothing.

If the parent does find something significant, sooner or later, the kid will 
find out, probably because the parent will confront the kid, but even if the 
parent simply takes steps to prevent whatever they saw on the kid's facebook. 
And this again brings it back to the problem of ever developing any sort of 
trusting relationship with the kid, ever again.

Let me put it another way: You're suggesting the moral equivalent of reading 
the kid's diary. Is that ever OK?